What is Impact Play and why do you want to get kinky with it?
Impact play is a type of BDSM activity that focuses on delivering pain and pleasure. It can involve activities such as spanking, flogging, and sensation play with various tools to create sensations like a stinging, tickling, pain, or leaving marks on your partner’s skin. With impact play you have the ability to create a space for enhanced physical pleasure and intimacy between two partners. The stimulation that comes from the exchange can be exciting and transcendental for both involved. With careful negotiation beforehand, impact play can be an incredible erotic experience that will satisfy your need to get kinky.
Types of Impact Play - From Spanking To Flogging and Everything In Between
Impact play is a delicious way to explore your kinkier side! It’s like the ultimate buffet for BDSM, with so many delicious options. Spanking can add an extra frisson of intensity to whatever else you’re up to, perfect for creating that special blend of pain and pleasure in one quick action. Flogging offers a deeper sensation and is great for those looking for longer-term or more intense impact sensations. Want something even more intense? Opt for the crop or otherwise rigid implement of your choice and turn the intensity up a notch. No matter which type of impact play you’re into, be sure to read up on safety guidelines and learn how to use different tools properly so that your experience is safe, enjoyable, and yes—kinky!
How to use a mini spanking paddle
Exploring BDSM can be exciting and fun, but it's also important to make sure that safety comes first. Using a mini spanking paddle is one way to engage in impact play. This type of implement is lightweight yet effective for delivering short stings across the skin. A mini paddle is perfect for playing with sensation - running along the body with gentle taps or using firmer swats to deliver intense shockwaves through the body. As long as the proper steps are taken to practice safe BDSM and keep communication open between partners during such activities, incorporating a mini spanking paddle into your playtime could be just what you need to take your pleasure even further!
How to use a riding crop
A riding crop can be a versatile tool for creating thrilling sensations during impact play. When gently used, it provides a light sting, but with a little more pressure, the sensation becomes sharper and more on target. Make sure to start off safely by exploring on yourself first before using it with your partner! Experiment with angles to create different effects, such as wispy strokes and zaps.
How to use a flogger
If you've been looking to take your bondage and dominance playtime to the next level, a flogger is an excellent choice. They come in a variety of shapes and sizes, offering different amounts of intensity with each stroke, depending on how hard you swing it. To start, swing lightly against your partner's body- paying attention to their reaction to increase or reduce intensity accordingly. Flexible leather strands caress the skin gently at first before intensifying as you work up speed. Take your time as it takes practice for both partners to become comfortable with this sense of play and communication. Ultimately, exploring a flogger together can be quite rewarding; from soft tickles to hot stings, your partner will find pleasure in each sensation that is delivered!
How to use a leather paddle
If you're looking to add a bit of spice to your bedroom play, why not try out a leather paddle? It's a classic BDSM implement that can provide intense sensations for the receiver. Understand that different types of impact play come with their own risks, so it's important to go slow and pay attention so as not to overwhelm your partner. Start lightly, gauging how the other responds to the feeling of the leather paddle against their skin before increasing intensity. Alternate between tingly smacks and firmer thuds to heat things up - you can even experiment with caressing in between spanks! With some experimentation (and safewords!), you'll be able to find exactly what works best for both partners during impact play sessions with your trusty leather paddle.
How to use a feather tickler
Feather ticklers are a classic item to use for impact play in the BDSM world. While they're not intended to leave any lasting marks, they can still be incredibly sensual! When using a feather tickler, it's important to be aware of body language and cues from your partner to make sure you hit the right spots for maximum pleasure and fun. Start by running the feathers over their skin lightly, making sure to leave a light and teasing feeling as you go. You can also tease them with strokes of various pressure, from lighter gliding touches up to more intensely flicking motions–it’s totally up to you! When it comes down to it, experimenting with different types of strokes will help create an incredibly enjoyable experience for both partners.
How to use your hand for impact play
Hand impact play can be a tantalising tease as well as an arousing alternative when you’re just starting out. The undeniable pressure of someone else’s palm can be incredibly arousing and add an extra layer of sensation. Try light spanking, caressing in circles, or alternate between gentle tapping and more intense smacks depending on preference. Delicately outlining each other’s bodies with fingertips then slapping the same area can be especially exciting, or squeezing till it hurts followed immediately by soothing strokes. If exploring deeper than light touches and taps, gloves or paddles should be considered for extra cushion to reduce potential impacts - bruising happens much easier with hands compared to objects specifically designed for BDSM play. However you decide to use your digits, safety should always remain top priority!
Safety Is Key - Proper Use of Impact Toys and BDSM Safety Tips
When engaging in impact play with BDSM toys, always think safety first! Be sure to thoroughly research each implement to learn the proper way to use it and its intended sensation. Start slow and communicate often with your partner - negotiation is key to BDSM activities! Be sure to take frequent breaks so you can check in with each other, assess the sensations you’re feeling, and adjust the intensity of your play accordingly. In addition, slowly build up expectations of impact over time, as this helps both partners get comfortable with more difficult or complicated toys and activities.
Making The Most Out of Your Experience - Tips on Communication and Aftercare
If you’re new to impact play and BDSM, the first rule is communication. Set expectations with your partner before engaging in any BDSM activities to ensure that everyone is comfortable and on the same page. Additionally, deciding which type of implement you’ll use beforehand can give you an opportunity to learn more about different sensations they can bring while providing a module for discussion between partners.
Importantly, establish a safeword, phrase or signal to ensure that all parties know they can stop the scene at any time. Lots of people favour the Traffic Light system; green means we’re all good, orange means we’re almost at our limit but not quite and it’s time to slow down, red means the scene stops altogether. You can even ask them for a scale of 1-10 to gauge their pain tolerance during the scene. From floggers and croppers to crops and whips, exploring these tools together as a team is essential for a successful experience. Last but not least: don’t forget about aftercare! Check in with your partner afterwards to make sure everything was alright, listen to their feedback, acknowledge it and thank them for the opportunity. Similarly, be sure to take time for yourself following play sessions; allow yourself space to rest, relax and appreciate what just happened.
Impact play can be an incredibly thrilling way to explore your sexual desires and add a new dynamic to your relationship. It allows you to explore different sensations through experimentation and customize your experience for maximum pleasure. Whether you enjoy the sharper stinging sensation of a paddle or tickling of a feather feel free to experiment to find out what tickles (or more accurately, spanks) your fancy. Remember, safety is key — make sure that your play partner has consented and that you communicate clearly with each other during and after the scene. With some practice, determination and openness, impact play can be one of the most enjoyable activities in BDSM!
